Before I joined the sociotherapy group in my cell, I knew that I was a real man because I had many concubines, I could drink much beer, I could slap my wife and beat whoever comes to help her, but when we discussed in group about taking care of others, I realized that I was not a real man (Participant from Kiyumba sector, Muhanga District).
During the conviviality meeting which was held in Kiyumba sector, Muhanga District on 17 May 2016, some male participants testified how sociotherapy has changed their perceptions on manhood. Mr Bizimana and Pascal knew that they had rights to have intercourse with their wives without any condition.
They also thought that taking care of children like bathing the child is the full responsibility of their wives while their roles were only to care about financial needs of their families. During the phase of care, their fellow men in the group explained to them that a real man is the one who naturally loves, cares and who practices compassion and nonviolence.
While discussing about 'new life orientations', Mr Bizimana and Pascal committed to change their past behaviors in their families and decided to stop violence against their wives, do household chores like taking care of the children, cooking and sweeping.
This is confirmed by CBSP recent study in which the retrospective questionnaire indicates that 45.2% of respondents experienced violence at household level (physical, sexual, economical or psychological). After sociotherapy, 57.9% no longer experiences this violence and in 21.1% of the cases the violence reduced. 35.3% frequently experienced conflicts with the biological family or family in law and 18.1% experienced these conflicts sometimes. After sociotherapy, 60.3 % of the cases were completely solved and 32.8% were partly solved.
The pre- and post-intervention shows a significant difference on the level of shared decision making and in the retrospective questionnaire we see that 64.2% stated that sharing domestic chores between partners has been improved.